The Guardian:
The 36 questions that can make you «fall in love with someone» were first published in 1997, in an academic paper by psychologist Arthur Aron and others, under the title The Experimental Generation of interpersonal closeness: a procedure and some preliminary findings. The questions appeared in the appendix, along with the instructions the team had given each pair, beginning “This is a study of interpersonal closeness, and your task, which we think will be quite enjoyable, is simply to get closer to your partner. .” Participants were told to work through the questions in order, each answering all 36 questions, over a period of approximately one hour. Six months later, two of the participants were married to each other. However, your mileage may vary.
Summary
Here’s how to deal with pain:
- Ouchie!: Pain definitely gets a one-star rating, but it’s important to realize that psychology is a big part of it. Thoughts, feelings, and expectations of doom make it worse, and anything that makes you feel safe and calm will make it a little better.
- Relax: Yes, this is hard to do when you feel like you’re dying an inch at a time, but progressive muscle relaxation can help.
- Distraction: This gives you license to do unproductive things that you would normally feel guilty about, like watching comedy, listening to music, or seeing friends. (Looking at cute animals can save the day.)
- Thoughts: The stabbing pain brings can make you feel worse. Dispute them to be realistic and reduce the sting.
The research behind the questions
Do you know the 36 questions that lead to love?
Research by psychologist Arthur Aron and associates shows that after completing relationship building tasks (36 questions increasing in intensity), the closeness effect achieved was significant compared to the control group .
Who should you ask these 36 questions of love?
Actually, it’s supposed to be for falling in love! 🙂
So, you should ask these questions to someone you want to create a romantic relationship with, those are the questions you should ask to fall in love.
